Many gay men and lesbian women in India get married under social pressure, locking them in unhappy marriages, sometimes with tragic outcomes. So at 29, he got married and, a few years later, had a baby. A friend told him he couldn’t possibly be gay because he wasn’t sleeping with men-a stereotype common about gay men then, says Rajiv. Photographs were produced, names were dropped, introductions arranged. By the time Rajiv had a job and was earning well, his parents sprang the question: what about marriage. He knew he was somehow “different', but didn’t know how.
